Love is an indispensable part of life that everyone tends to exercise in the daily life. Romantic love, on the other hand, is a form of love that entails the emotional attraction between two individuals of opposite sexes or identical sexes as in the case of gays and lesbians. Most people consider the romantic love as the state that arises spontaneously regardless of the judgment of right and wrong effort. On the other hand, to some individuals, love perceived as a choice that an individual makes following a given experience of attraction. People may fall in love due to the small occurrences or actions that individuals take toward each other. For instance, just a smile can attract two people into a romantic relationship or love. In most cases, may people cannot trace back the origin of their relationship because of the little actions that mean nothing into people who are not interested in the act. A lady, for instance, will only identify one man out of a million guys that exist and this justifies the phrases “one in a million” or “the brightest star in the sky” that are most commonly used in the romantic relationships. The romantic love usually involves feelings that are sometimes hurting emotionally and the expression of a less serious statement may lead to the breakups; this proves that romantic love is not good for marriage, the form or relationship that requires a lot of commitments and sacrifices.
Romantic love only involves beauty of the outward appearances, a scenario that is not applicable in most marriages. In marriage, people usually look good characters rather than the outward beauty; the couples normally go for the responsible individuals that are able to withstand the life challenges because marriage is considered a permanent commitment that binds two individuals for a common interest. Most romantic love does not usually lead to marriages simply because of the irresponsibility that most people experiences in it. The romantic love is usually practiced by the youth or teenagers that tend to disregard that fact that love is not usually a true affection. In most cases, the act of love is normally considered as selfish rather than the unselfish act, although many people may not be aware of it. In the human relationship, the heart is usually described as a deceitful part of human senses above all other things.
Romantic love is based on the chemical attraction that opposite sexes express towards each other as a result of the power of hormones, it has nothing to do with the responsible marriage relationship. It can occur between the people who are in marriage versus those who are not in marriage thereby leading to the act of cheating that is most commonly experienced in the marriages. Ones the two people of opposite sexes are attracted by the power of hormones, they start to have a feeling of deeper relationship a situation that may automatically lead to marriage without the consideration of other factors that are essential in the marriage institutions. For instance, two individuals may deeply get involved in love due to the sexual intimacy and romantic actions that sometimes seems enjoyable, a situation that can lead to the unplanned marriages. Although sex is a beautiful thing that was created by God, it should not be misused; the main thing that should unite people in marriage is a sense of responsibility and the ability to make the relationship a faithful and a responsible one.
In the romantic love, an individual is frequently involved in the absolute joyous moments, a situation that cannot work in a commitment marriage. The romantic love is characterized by many activities that cannot be applied to the marriage. For example, spending too much time on vacation or may not work in marriages since this is an institution where children need the full attention of the responsible time. The romantic love also involves doing things blindly without considering the presence of people available, it is quite common to find people in love dressing in an inappropriate manner not because they are doing it intentionally but because of they blindly in love, they usually carry themselves irresponsibly (Træen and Thuen 141). The marriage institution is characterized by high level of responsibility and those who are irresponsible usually suffer divorce in the course of their life. In the current world, most marriages fail to bring happiness due to too much romantic love that people usually express in the initial stages of marriage.
At the early stages of marriage, romantic love usually forms the poor basis for different marriages. This is attributed to other factors like lack of stability particularly in the financial income (Randles 389). The above situation leads to the quarrels and fight, a situation which eventually leads to the divorce. The romantic relationship is characterized by heavy spending in different aspects, from beauty products to lavish vacations. On the other hand, marriages involve commitments and additional responsibilities that require the use of money. It is therefore quite common to find couples falling out of marriages due to minor financial issues or lack of enough financial income that can support the family. The romantic love is mostly characterized by beauty and the fashionable ways of expression and when the people grow up in marriages, they tend to lose the beauty that majorly lies on the makeup and attires. The above situation leads to the boring life thereby leading to the loss of intimate attraction and the propagation of act of unfaithfulness.
Many people can also argue that romantic love is the basis for the lasting family and marriage relationship. The act helps individuals to understand each other and to plan the course of their actions before starting the permanent journey of lifetime commitment. Romantic love is an act that is inevitable, there are always stages of life where individuals automatically develop the need for the romantic love and it is on this basis that most people end up getting marriage unknowingly. A long lasting marriage should involve romantic love that binds the couples together and this love must begin before marriage. It is the romantic love that defines the course of marriages and in most cases; couples tend to develop a bond that makes them think the same, react that same, and develop a sense of being together in times of need and happiness. Courtship is another form of relationship that can be easily learned. Many people are not confident enough to involve in courtship, in the current world, courtship is expressed in different ways unlike in the past where the act proved difficult. Consequently, romantic love is also a dexterity that can be created and developed. Romance depends on the individuals that are involved in it; it can be developed and seen as love.
In most cases, couples ought to develop feelings of attraction before engaging in a discussion about getting marriage; this means that romantic love is the foundation of a long lasting relationship. If it is well guided, it can lead to a happy marriage. The romantic relationship is normally based on nothing credible and it is through it that people identify the potential men and women who may develop a sense of responsibility towards a long lasting or a permanent marriage. There are individuals start the romantic relationship as early as the teenage and they grow with it into a responsible marriage, this means that romantic relationship can lead to a happy marriage in some instances (Giordano et al. 271).
In conclusion, Love is an essential part of life that everyone tends to practice in the daily life. Romantic love, on the other hand, is a form of love that involves the emotional attraction between two individuals of opposite sexes or same sexes as in the case of gays and lesbians. The romantic love usually involves feelings that are sometimes hurting emotionally and the expression of a less serious statement may lead to the breakups; this proves that romantic love is not good for marriage, the form or relationship that requires a lot of commitments and sacrifices. Romantic love is based on the chemical attraction that opposite sexes express towards each other as a result of the power of hormones, it has nothing to do with the responsible marriage relationship.
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