Personal identity is an idea or perception that one develops about themselves and usually it changes in the path of one’s lifetime. It may also involve unique aspects of life that an individual can not have control over, such as the place where one grew up, some of the choices that an individual makes in life or even some physical aspects defined by one’s background. Throughout lifetime one can outwardly demonstrate aspects of their identity by the manner in which they interact with people as well as how they signify themselves in other ways, including clothes, behavior, lifestyle. Moreover, there are some aspects of non-public identity that can be kept within oneself no count number how essential they might appear to be. On the other hand, the way others perceive and identify us might appear to be totally different from how we see ourselves and who we are actually trying to be through our image, attitude, manners and personality traits. My uncle thinks that I am lazy and unmotivated to succeed in my studies, although I am very ambitious and determined to make my dreams come true in life by achieving the highest academic goals I am capable of.
The fact that my uncle sees me as a person who is lazy and lacks the motivation to succeed in my school did not just come as a result of one incident or different opinions that I may have with him. Over the years, my uncle has kept on taunting me as someone who cannot excel in my studies without even making attempts to find out how I perform at school. The first incident was when we had a family gathering that involved all members of the extended family. During the introduction, all the grandchildren were asked to mention full names of at least five of the relatives who were present at the gathering. When my time came, I only managed to say three. No sooner had I finished than my uncle exclaimed in front of everyone in the meeting that I am a lazy kid and that most likely I do not even have the ability to succeed in my academic studies. Besides that, he told the whole family that he thinks that my conduct shows that I am someone who cannot even remember whatever I am learning in school just because he heard my mother complaining about me. He remarked that he overheard my mother one day complain that I forgot to close the water taps before I left for school, which in fact had no connection to my performance at school.
Nonetheless, my uncle’s perception about me does not hold an ounce of truth. The performance records I have had in school speak for themselves. Ever since I started schooling, I have never gone below the third position in my class. My parents are proud of me because of the excellent results I have been scoring ever since I joined first grade. Additionally, it is not only my parents who are impressed by high academic performance I have been attaining in school, but my teachers too have also had glowing remarks to make.
Regarding the issue of laziness that my uncle thinks of me, I may say that he is mistaken or his perceptions of me might be influenced by personal bias or simply lack of information. Throughout my school life, my success is attributable to the hard work and diligence in class. Not once have I been awarded certificates of merits in recognition of the hard work I have displayed both in class work and co-curricular activities. Apart from representing my school in netball, I have also once been awarded the trophy for being the best player of the interschool tournament that was held last year in our school. That could not have been achieved without hard work. All those examples help to define how I see myself as a hard-working person who does not rest until he gets what he sets his eyes on.
In conclusion, I may say that personal identity is a concept that keeps evolving during lifetime and may not necessarily hold any truth if it comes from what other people perceive of you. I would define identity as those consistent elements or habits that one inadvertently displays about themselves without having to state or affirm them by oneself. Although people are not often objective about the assessment of the personal identity of other people, their perceptions will always play a significant role in the definition of personal identity.