Gays and lesbians are becoming more welcomed and incorporated into today’s culture, but there are still problems when it comes to homosexual couples forming their own families. Homosexual couples will adopt children in most states in the United States, much like heterosexual couples. This controversial subject has caused several debates, with some people claiming that homosexual adoption should be allowed nationwide, while others believe that it should be outlawed in all states (Sabrina., Tavernise). There are strong arguments for legalizing and encouraging homosexual couples to adopt children, but for some people, these arguments are inadequate. Here, the main issues that need everyone to address and answer are; what does the child need? Do homosexual couples show a sense of sensitivity, care as well as nurture to others? Do the gay and lesbian individuals possess parenting qualities? Based on these issues, the public can understand the advantages and disadvantages of adoption by homosexual couples. Like any adoption process, homosexual couples can prove themselves fit to be responsible and capable enough to raise and assume parenting duties on their own, or with the help of a spouse (Murphy, Timothy F, p. 293).
The issue of adoption by homosexual couples is proving to be more complicated than what many individuals expected. In the current liberal society, homosexuality is becoming more acceptable than ever before (Murphy, Timothy F, p. 291). Thus, homosexual couples, like heterosexual counterparts have parental instincts and are developing more interest to start a family of their own as well as raise children. In today’s life, a family should be guided by love and trust, the presence of these crucial elements in a relationship guarantees both heterosexual and homosexual couples to adopt and begin a family of their own (April, Martin, Ph.D.). Although some individuals argue that homosexual lifestyles rotate only on sex, which is definitely the most inappropriate environment for a minor, but for the most part of parenting life, adults and parents keeps their adulthood lifestyles behind closed doors and private, thereby, there is no enough reason to stop homosexual couples from adopting children (Andrea, Stone).
Research on Homosexual Parented Families
Recent research advice theoretical and policy debates about the adoption of children by homosexual couples. There are several documentations about the sound development of kids by gay and lesbian couples in numerous studies showing that children raised by homosexual couples have same similarities in comparison to children raised by heterosexual couples in various psychological measures (April, Martin, Ph.D.). Studies reveal that kids raised by homosexual couples do not differ in numbers of psychological behaviors from the kids born and raised by heterosexual couples. This includes behavioral orientation and gender role behaviors and activities (Bos, H. et al, p. 643).
Research literature demonstrates that homosexual couples are capable parents. Homosexual couples appear to demonstrate more parental skills and possess parental experiences that same to those displayed by heterosexual couples. In addition, lesbians and gay parents have been reported to have the same level of parental complications and issues that are same to those experienced by heterosexual parents (Raley, Jesse, p. 333). Furthermore, homosexual couples have been reported to be contempt with their relationship just like heterosexual couples.
Overall, the issue of sexual orientation in family affairs has not been reported to be linked with parent and child outcome in research conducted on homosexual couples. Rather, studies reveal that parental issues like quality of parenting as well as an attachment as the most common predators of child and parent relationship than family structure (Takács, Judit et al, p. 1788). This relationship has been reported in adoptive and biological families and among homosexual and heterosexual parents.
Adoption by Homosexual Couples
Homosexual couples have always adopted, although their sexual orientation may not always be in the open or public domain. In the current society, homosexual individuals are openly considering the potentials and possibilities of adopting children. This alteration is caused by an increase in the number of biological homosexual parents in the United States of America. Due to the needs as well as wellbeing of the kids, there are a number of reasons that support the adoption of children by homosexual couples, including equal rights for all the citizens (“Same-Sex Parents With Children: Legal, Policy, And Child Development Issues – Office Of Child Development – University Of Pittsburgh”). In a globalized society, civil agencies do not discriminate based on creed, race, or sexual and gender orientation, but the restriction of equal rights to homosexual couples signifies discrimination. Both homosexual and straight couples should have equal rights of adopting children. Thus, restriction of equal rights of adoption is a pure form of inequality which is guided by homophobia. In many states, gay and lesbian can adopt kids as a single parent. In a real sense, that is absurd. As outlined in Universal Declaration of Human Rights that “all are equal before the law, all are entitled to equal protection against any form of discrimination.” A large number of states are beginning to embrace this reality (Dinno, Alexis, and Chelsea Whitney, p. e65730).
There is enough evidence that demonstrates that homosexual couples can be good in parenting just like their heterosexual couples. In reality, studies reveal that homosexual couples are better motivated as well as committed to parenting than heterosexual couples, because they make a choice to have children, unlike the over fifty percent of heterosexual couples who stumble to parenthood by accident (Ball M, Carlos A, p. 122). In many occasion, homosexual couples form the relationship that is more stable than that formed by the heterosexual couples, giving adopted children a secure environment and emotionally stable homes. Furthermore, the need of the children plays a major role in homosexual adoption. In most cases, the adopted children of homosexual couples were not snatched or stolen from happy heterosexual homes. Most of the adopted children would come from the foster homes, orphanage or even from single parents who are unable to cope with the increasing needs of the children. In this case, the family of homosexual couples is better than the alternatives (Ball M, Carlos A, p. 134).
Moreover, given the shortage of heterosexual couples willing to adopt children, homosexual adoption would provide the adopted children with loving and caring homes they have always needed. In this case, the situation is good to the children who want a loving home and the homosexual couples who want to raise children, as well as the society as the number of children in the orphanage, will decrease. In America, close to 50, 000 children have found loving and caring homes, as results of homosexual adoption legislation (Raley, Jesse, p. 334). In addition, there is need of breaking down prejudices concerning homosexual couple’s adoption. Usually, a society that understands the need for diversity is strong and better off than an opposing society. Children brought up by homosexual couples may have different outlooks. A Recent survey conducted in the United States of America has demonstrated that children raised by homosexual couples are more tolerant and they are open-minded. For this reason, this serves as the best reason of allowing lesbian and gay couples to adopt. Moreover, lifting bans on homosexual adoption serves as the step towards achieving more diverse and tolerant society where no citizen faces discrimination (Eskridge, Jr, p. 98).
The Position of Opponents of Homosexual Adoption
Large and increasing evidence demonstrates that the heterosexual couples and families are best for children development. In particular, the work of Takács, Judit et al (p. 1788) has contributed handsomely to this conclusion. The opponents of homosexual couples adoption fall under two main categories; homosexual adoption are wrong as a matter of principality and they are wrong because they are not a good environment for the children to be brought up in (Arthur, Dobrin D.S.W.). The principle of opposing homosexual adoptions that children are entitled to both biological parents of opposite sex. In this argument, given that the children are conceived by a woman and a man, the children should, therefore, be brought up by a mother and father. In this position, the possibility of both single and homosexual couples adopting a child is ruled out. Based on religious and moral values, homosexual parenting runs fundamentally counter to many of the religious views of many people (Andrea, Stone). In this case, legalizing homosexual adoption will be offending the cherished values and beliefs of many individuals and further leads to undermining the key role played by the religious values as moral bedrock in the society. Several religious leaders, including Jewish, Christians, and Islamic have voiced their concern against homosexual couples (Takács, Judit et al, p. 1793).
In a democratic decision, the society cannot always achieve the outcome best for everyone. Yet we thrive to respect democratic decision-making process, especially for those who vote against homosexual adoption. It’s on record that the leaders and representatives have voted against this adoption and given that they are elected representatives of the societies, we should also accept that, even if we disagree with what they have to say. In addition, the process of adopted has served as a way of shutting doors in religious centers. Religious adoption centers play an important duty in making sure that deprived children experience love and care in their newly found homes (Ball M, Carlos A, p. 43). In many cases, these centers easily give up on children instead of waiting to be forced by the legislation give out the children homosexual families. As a matter of fact, the situation in already happens: religious centers in most parts of America have shut down as results of the legislation laws that would oblige the agencies to hand over the children to homosexual families. Due to this, enforcing legislation would worsen the situation for the deprived children to find loving and secure homes and families.
In conclusion, the legalization of homosexual adoption in all states would be advantageous to our society, having a caring and loving home in which deprived, needy, and orphaned children can go is good for the new family. In addition, it will reduce the chances of the juvenile as results of horrible condition of the orphanage and foster care system. Children raised by homosexual couples would not be harmful by affected by the sexual orientation of the parents and they would be thankful for having a loving and caring family. Any individual who have the abilities to bring up a kid in a loving, caring, and secure environment, and above all, have desires of having a child deserves to be given a chance parenting and their chances of parenting should not be denied. In summary, homosexual couples adoption acts as a positive solution to the majority of children that go each year without a loving, caring, and secured home and family.
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